Monday, October 15, 2012

The Love Dream--Living in Love

            Recently on Facebook I asked my friends if any of them had ever had dreams about being with someone that they had never known or seen in waking life, but in the dream, in subtle life, they felt an intense love and closeness toward that person.  I was surprised at all the responses that reported that indeed they had, and many went on to describe their own dreams, which we could see based on everyone’s experiences, that the dreams were primarily composed of intense feelings of love and exaltation.

           This has been an ongoing phenomenon for me over many years, and they seem to happen more frequently as I get older (although in my dreams I’m not older: I’m ageless if anything, or as though I am the same age I always am.)  It’s not that it happens all the time—maybe an average of twice a month or so.  Yet when it happens it is very intense and leaves me with that same feeling throughout the following day, and often through many days following.

I wake up from them with that exalted love energy, and when I first wake up my feeling is something like, ‘oh no, not this world again.  I want to go back to the dream.  I want to spend more time with her.’  And it takes a little while to adjust levels and come ‘back to earth’ for life in this physical world (the remaining karma of this particular incarnation).

 Recently I had the latest.  In this one a very beautiful woman appeared before me and told me that she had 4 things of value that she wanted to show so that I would know who she is.  The first thing she showed me was from Sai Baba of Shirdi.  The next one was from Nisargadatta.  Then there was one from Muktananda.  And finally there was one from the Christ.

Although I have no memory of the exact objects she presented, they were glowing with light and contained an uplifting energy.  I experienced their power and I knew who she was.

           The next part of the dream I remember was her crawling into bed with me.  Touching her was ecstatic.  I moved as though perhaps we were having sex, but she smiled and said, ‘Not that, I’m just here for a cuddle.’

 I told her, ‘I was just being myself.’

She smiled brightly again.  ‘I understand totally.’  And somehow I knew that she indeed understood totally.  In fact, I’d never felt more understood.

 I chuckle now remembering saying in my dream, ‘I was only being myself.’  Kay laughed when she heard that part too.  Kay also understands me.

After that, the two of us were out on a grand adventure in some city or town I am not familiar with in waking life.  I cannot remember all that happened to us or all that we did; I only remember how incredible it felt to be with her, to feel her near me.

Then at some point I woke up, and it seemed an abrupt departure from the dream.  My initial feeling, as it has often been before, was, Oh no, I don’t want her to be gone.  I want to spend more time with her.  And then the feeling lingered for several days.

So when I asked my Facebook friends if anyone had similar dreams, or similar feelings during or following such dreams, I was surprised at how many had experienced it.  There were all sorts of ideas presented: I was meeting the feminine aspect of myself.  I was having a vision and experience of the divine Goddess in yet another form—if dream-life is actually a form.  Ultimately it all takes place in our own consciousness.  Anyway, if you have any similar dreams or experiences, feel free to share about them in the comments following this.

I would love to know what such dreams are truly all about.  Hopefully someday I will have all the answers to my own questions.  Whatever kind of experiences the dreams are, they happen often enough and are intense enough to be significant in some way, especially since so many others report similar experiences.
It seems, if this kind of love is available in a dream, and is real during the 'time' it happens, then it must be possible to live in love.  Why not go through all of life with this ecstatic feeling?  It would indeed be Living in Love.

There were some good exchanges following last month’s entry, and since they are worth reading, even worth reading again, I will share some enhanced responses to the questions in the comments:

Not taking anything personally is a great attainment.  Someone says, 'You are a foolish person,' and you can silently know within yourself, 'There goes a fellow who tells other people they are foolish.'  This helps a lot to attain humility.  I am not sure if in itself alone it will do the trick, although much depends on our readiness and willingness to live in a humble way.  

Perhaps it is most humbling to openly accept one's own divinity, without any further question. 'Ok, it's settled, I am an expression of divinity no matter what I think, say, feel, or do. Only I will experience the consequences of these things, and they will be like rain drops falling on a man swimming in the ocean, who will not care that it is raining.'

When people come to me regarding a loved one who is very sick or nearing death, I always direct the conversation to the subtle realms, where there is continuity beyond this temporary physical form.  When children die it is because that soul didn't have much karma to experience in this lifetime.  It has nothing to do with something 'bad' happening or something going 'wrong.'  It just means, 'Karma now over.'  Of course, the parents are devastated.  I cannot bear the thought of losing any of my children.  It is among the most horrible human experiences.

Even so, in reality, the soul of that child had very little karma to experience in this particular incarnation.  Knowing this does not reduce the grief, but it does give a way to deal with it.
 Responding to someone else: 'Who' is this person that you are describing to be yourself?  You are injecting an imaginary character whom you take to be yourself. There is no one to 'have' a mind; there is only the egotistical identification with thoughts. There is no one to have an ego; there is the ego which identifies with the body, mind, and emotions, and considers itself to be a particular person with a personal life.

'What role does the mind play in helping us realize our true Self?'

In short, we need the understanding that mind is creative in nature, and mind-in-motion, or thought, creates situations and conditions in accordance to its own nature. For example, thoughts of joy lead to joy, and thoughts of sadness lead to sadness. And so on.

Once we understand that the mind is creative, and that thoughts are actual psychic forces that affect us and have their effects in our life, then we understand the incredible importance of controlling what we think, so as to think only thoughts of a positive and constructive nature. This is the key to mastery of this physical world and the land of karma, but of course it takes more than merely understanding this with the mind; it takes actual practice and participation in our own life. This is why we have a Course via email: to aid in maintaining the process, understanding the process, and consciously participating in the process of transformation.

Ultimately, the Self exists in all Its fullness between each and every two thoughts, and behind all thoughts.  The Upanishads say that 'God is the Witness of the mind.  What we have always called God is the inner Awareness that knows what we think.  The contracted form of the Self is the mind, so thoughts are merely the bubbling up of Consciousness. It is when we are not thinking, and the mind is not in motion, that we experience the pure Awareness of the Self.

The mind can help in this process by thinking thoughts that lead toward the realization of the Self, and by ceasing to think thoughts that lead us into egotistical melodramas having to do with the objective world of other people, or objective humanity.

It takes no time to be realized. That which ever will be realized is already realized. That which is not already realized is only a figment of our imagination.

Someone asked why it feels so good to help others, and keeps up the yard of his elderly neighbors and notices that it feels as good to him as it does to them.

Kay and I would be overjoyed if some younger person came and cleaned up and shaped our yards. I can just imagine the joy and appreciation the elderly sisters must feel when you do that for them.

This is the great secret of the universe: "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." This is the secret to contentment, and also has the added benefit of creating only pleasant karma from here on out. It's when we do unto others what we wouldn't want done to ourselves that we create unpleasant karma.

The primary principle here, though, is that it is better to give than to receive. Giving makes receiving possible.  Service is such an essential element in the enjoyment of life. For one thing, service is the soul of money. When we serve others, we are magically compensated in ways we might never have expected.

In this darkest of ages (Kali Yuga) there are corrupt means of acquiring money, and they are often powerful forces in this world. Although this may lead to riches and worldly power, it can never lead to contentment. Contentment comes only through service. Service is the key to contentment.

 Any truly content person will tell you that it is their service to others that brings them the most contentment; and that whatever financial rewards come their way as a result, while practically useful, are not the main thing.  And the Tao Te Ching says that contentment is the highest goal of life.

Whether things go the way we want them to in this life or not is much less releveant than most of us care to believe.  All that ultimately matters is our degree of contentment and fulfillment.  We experience this when we are truly ourselves, and this happens when we are living in the Truth of the Present Moment.

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