Saturday, February 2, 2013

Just For the Love of It

The beauty of the blowing snow showers outside my window might be more enjoyable if it were not 15 degrees on a Saturday afternoon.  As things are, it is a good time to go within and manifest a new blog entry to celebrate February.  Why?  Just for the love of it.

This is where we can meet in the same space all at once.  I don’t mean a particular place, date, and time; the space of Love exists only in this moment, so if you read this three years after it was written, the space of Love is still the same as it is right now.  After all, whenever you read it, is it ‘now,’ isn’t it?

Our chosen title, ‘Just for the Love of it,’ is a particularly favorite theme for me.  If we can live so that every moment is lived just for the love of it, life will be miraculously fulfilling.  Additionally, if we can love everything we do, we will experience happiness and freedom.  Once we love everything we do, our experience of life begins to happen on an entirely different level of Being.

Sally Kempton, who I have known over half my life, wrote the book, ‘Meditate for the Love of It,’ and I agree, if you’re going to meditate, then by God do it for the love of it and no other reason.  I highly endorse Sally as a meditation teacher, for she teaches from experience and I know she is also very grounded in the scriptures.  Only a person who can actually meditate should teach meditation to others.

Take me, for example.  I am supremely unqualified for anything.  All I can do is live in the present moment.  In fact, I can’t get out of the present moment.  I’m a bit stuck here.  When I was younger I thought I was weird, that I didn’t fit in, because I didn’t know what to talk about, I didn’t know how to play all the personality games, because I had none.  I accepted that I was a misfit, and that this was my lot in life.

Then I came across teachers and teachings regarding how living in the present moment is a good thing, not a bad thing.  I learned that it was okay that I didn’t fit in; in fact, if I had ‘fit in’ it would have been a bad sign.  I learned that the personality games and egotistical melodramas were things to break free from, not to make life all about.  If I was a misfit, that was fine with me.  So far nothing has changed in this regard.

We are initiating something new and different this month.  Starting on February 7th, we will begin a 3-week in-depth Immersion in the subject, ‘Inner Growth Through Relationships.’  We will meet online together for 3 consecutive Thursdays, the 7th, 13th, and 21st.   Our meetings will be conversational and will last an hour each.  During the other days we will meet in a chat room and keep in daily contact, to the degree that we wish to.  If you cannot make the 7th, there is a package available for the 13th and 21st only.  For more information on this, please go here:

Since I have no choice but to live in the present moment, it was obvious my dharma (duty) was to help others who wished to, to do the same.  The center of this work is the Course of Training via email, which consists of reading two lessons a month and applying the principles in your own life. 

We are also now offering online workshops.  The next online workshop will be March 3, and will be the same topic:  ‘Inner Growth Through Relationships.’  For those in the Immersion, the workshop will be the culmination.  However, the workshop is open to all, whether you participate in the Immersion or not.

Some good exchanges have taken place in the recent comments, and now I will share a collection of responses to the questions of others.

This first response is regarding someone’s comments about our very first workshop, in November, in which there were a few technical glitches (we’ve improved a lot since then):

I loved these questions:  “Sipping his drink, people commenting every second on everything that is said.  Why aren't they just listening?  Why am I getting distracted by them?  Does Ram have to talk to Kay that way?  Is this what a real relationship is?  When is he just going to get to the teachings.  This is so tiring.  Everything he says is in the course.  He only calls on friends from his past, etc., etc., etc.”

Ah, the honesty, the openness—many people think these things, but few have the courage to actually express them and bring them out into the open.

That first workshop, although it was a great experience for all who participated, isn't exactly my most shining memory.  Not only was it our first time, but the platform we were using was totally unsuitable.  We have changed to something much nicer and easier to work with.  There are no longer ‘comments’ onscreen, but only D.R. on full screen.  After 3 workshops, things are starting to run much more smoothly.

I particularly loved the comment, "Everything he says is in the course." I have to admit, this one is true.  Everything I know is from the course.  If I knew something worthwhile that wasn't in the course, then the course would be incomplete.  Of course, the course has not finished for anyone yet, myself included. We are each going as fast as we can, for the Omnipresent and Omniscient Consciousness is compassionate enough to let each individual aspect of Itself progress at our own most comfortable pace.

Then the line, 'When is he going to get to the teachings?' My mind used to do this all the time around the Guru. 'When is he going to stop being so mundane and get to something substantial?  This is getting pretty boring.'

Yet, as my mind was thinking such things, I'd notice that I was beginning to experience this incredible inner energy that obviously had nothing to do with what was going on outwardly. I would go in states of deep meditation or bliss. Yet my mind is going, 'When will he get to the highest teachings?'

We don't offer workshops to present new facts and information you might have never run across. I don't know if there really is something like that. The workshop is an experience of the Present Moment, and moves us along rather quickly in our process, however we describe that process to ourselves. The Workshop is an initiation and offers a transformation on inner levels. It doesn't have the first thing to do with what I talk about.

As for calling only on friends from the past, I have to say that over half the people I called on that day were people I did not know and had never spoken with in real time before.

As far as how I was talking to Kay, Kay has known me and helped me in Workshops for more than 30 years now, and has lived with me and worked fulltime on the Course with me for the last 10 years or so. Her ego is not so sensitive that if I speak to her in a way to most quickly get things done, she's not going to take it personally and feel that she has been treated badly.

Kay understands why I speak to her in whatever way I am speaking to her. What we have developed together over 30 years is not likely to be understood by someone coming across some aspect of our relationship for the first time.

I might speak to her abruptly because that is what is needed in the moment. She understands that. She also knows that later on I will probably coo in her ear.


Regarding your question, the only things that can affect us are our own thoughts, our own awareness, and where our attention is focused.  Others do not have the power to affect us unless we give them that power through believing in the other more than we believe in our Self.

We determine through what we create in inner consciousness what will be real for us in the outer world, which is basically a reflection of what we have created in inner consciousness through the power of thought, imagination, and ideation.

Others can only determine their own experience and feelings. When we blame others for our experiences or feelings we only reveal our ignorance of how the game works.

We always and invariably determine our experience and perception through what we think and choose to believe. Through describing something in a certain way we begin to see and experience conditions and situations manifest exactly according to our descriptions and beliefs.

We experience as reality what we describe to ourselves and assume to be real.

So our own experience has nothing to do with how others think or act.  They themselves are affected by their thoughts and actions, no one else.  We determine our own perception, experience, and all feelings according to what we are thinking and how we are focusing our attention.

With greater awareness, we start to see how we have created through descriptions, thoughts, and beliefs our life as it has manifested.  When we change our descriptions, thoughts, and beliefs, things change in outer life exactly according to the inner changes in thought, attitude, and feeling.


I am always happy to see your comments and questions. They always come from a good place, and it is great that such inner maturity manifests in one as young as yourself.

Your comments always make it obvious that you have very good understanding. It is now a matter of refining the understanding you already have. This happens in the natural process that occurs as we progress from one lesson to the next every two weeks.

You said, "It’s fascinating to me how much earnest effort is required to consciously choose each thought so that the impact is one we would actually enjoy."

You are right. This is perfect understanding. Many people don't get the 'earnest effort required' part of the equation.  I am so happy that you have started this path at a young age, for you are understanding things that others don't understand until a much later age, if at all.

It takes a long time, through experimentation and application of the principles, to fully grasp the true meaning of certain things.  Do we understand that we are pure and perfect just as we are, that we never made a mistake or a wrong decision, that it was karma and had to happen as it did?  Do we understand there is no way to make a mistake or do the wrong thing?  Things can only happen as they are intended to.  

Nothing is random or coincidental.  The details of conscious life are blended together so miraculously, yet we hardly give thought to what Power or Intelligence magically takes care of all the details—as long as we do our part.

Keep doing what you are doing. You really do have a good understanding of subtleties, and you can develop and expand this through the process of the Course, whatever convenient form the Course appears in for you now. Remain attuned to your current lesson, and you'll do just fine.


You say, '...we do positive thinking intentionality work, getting good effects, yet without wanting to, undermine those efforts when upsetting mindsets get triggered by some events or perceptions. I wonder how permanent roots can be formed that withstand ups and downs...'

In the course we focus on maintaining a single Identity that is indivisible and indestructible.  This Identity, or this inner Self, does not get triggered.  Nothing in the objective world has enough power to trigger it in any way.  In fact, it is already the 'permanent root' that has already been formed, and which very easily withstands ups and downs—in fact, doesn't even notice them.

The trouble is that instead of remaining focused on our true Self, we allow the samskaras (subconscious impressions and tendencies) to be affected by external stimuli and 'triggered' into something completely irrational and unhelpful in any way, if not emotionally negative and draining, often with the additional results of being disrespectful to others.

A large aspect of the Course of Training via email is that we are taught how to live in a nonreactive state, a state of deep equanimity.   As long as we are subject to emotional reactions, we cannot depend on ourselves to be who we are or to even know what we are doing.

Remain steadfast in your true Self.  There's no reason to keep allowing the samskaras to have their way with you forever.  At any time you choose you can put an end to it, and be Master of your own life.


Your question regarding ‘how to breathe’ is a great question, and yet it is not so simple to answer as it might at first seem. There is so much to understand about correct breathing. For one thing, only if we are consciously breathing are we actually aware of what we are doing in this present moment. If we're breathing unconsciously, chances are the mind is running on prior conditioning, preventing us from actually experiencing the Truth of the Present Moment.

The breath gives us prana, the life-force that enlivens and animates the body. The more consciously we breathe, the more present we are as we breathe, the deeper we breathe, and the slower we breathe, all combine to determine the energetic level of the prana available to us now, perhaps in a way that was not as powerful or as fully available before now.

Conscious life differs for each individual according to the quantity and quality of prana (or Shakti) available to the individual—and what is available to him is exactly how much he can be conscious of or comprehend at any given moment.

Some of us are immediately open and ready. We understand the Truth with equanimity.  We have nothing to cling to, no attachments to limit us or to restrict our freedom; we experience ourselves as an energetic flow, merged with the Whole of All that happens, and all that doesn't happen as well.

The quality and quantity of prana or life-force available to us at any moment depends on our openness to it and our consciousness of it.  If we are truly open and ready, we are willing to leave past concepts behind, and to open up to a reality so expanded and pure that we see why it was impossible to ever bring it into the 'understanding' of the conscious mind.

We breathe in vibrations from the ethers around us that correspond to our own inner consciousness at the time.  If we are cheerful and lighthearted, if we are open to spiritual awakenings in any unpredictable manner at any moment in our life, then we breathe in the vibrations of others around us on a similar vibrational level; we attract to ourselves even more of the positive energy that we were putting out.  We inhale, not in the 'air' as we ordinarily think of it, but in the ethers around us, energies corresponding to our own predominant energies.

In the same way, we exhale into the ethers, into the world and to others around us, vibrational energies corresponding to what we are inwardly feeling and experiencing. If we are feeling good inside, then others around us feel better without even knowing why.

As you can see, there is a lot to explore for those who are sincerely interested.  This is why we need an ongoing, 'alive' Course of Training, as it is a way of connecting into what needs to be done next, and as a way of understanding all this in a way that is obvious and natural.  If what we need to know next is not already intuitively obvious, it soon will be—unless certain rigid or habitual concepts of the mind prevent us from seeing what is obvious.

Thoughts can easily get in the way if we don't understand them in right perspective.  The Course covers everything we need to know regarding this, to help clarify our understanding of our own knowledge and our own practice.

Yes, there is much too much to cover in this space.  This is why we have the lessons, as a guide and companion along this mystical, mysterious, and magical ride on the way to living in the experience of the Truth in each Present Moment.

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